InterClub, what is that?

This may just be the future of Kin. To interclub is to take your Club (or at least some of it) and visit another during their meeting.

When I joined, this was a function that we all loved. The fellowship of another Club was always fabuolus. The Personal Development that we gained, watching a fellow Club in action, was tremendous. Even the trip was very memorable, with your own Club.

Now. We don't have the time. New young members would love to visit their neighboring Club. New young members need to expand to outside of their own Club. They need more, the best way to provide your members with more is to pick them up next Tuesday night, and hit the road.

While you are there, don't forget to have fun with them. Vote when you can, change their rules, mess with them. Make so they come visit you for "pay back".....

Got to love the road trip.....

Manage or Resolve

At the District Leadership Seminar this year, National has continued to have a section on "Conflict Resolution". Most organizations have changed their focus to "Conflict Management" rather than resolution. Very few conflicts can actually be resolved. Conflicts can however, be controlled, directed and we can learn to cope with any conflicts that we may have. I am a huge advocate of conflict management, I feel that we need to live in the real world where conflicts happen every day, and we must have the skills to control and cope with these conflicts.

I was under the misconception that I had some of these skills. I have a very good friend that did support me in all aspects of Kin. When this friend took on a position and needed my support, I was not there. In order to manage our conflicts there are many options we have. One can collaborate, compromise, accommodate, compete or avoid. I had issues with the decisions that my friend was making. In my mind, I chose the last option of ignoring, for the reason that it was easier to walk away and not have the conflict.

The result of this decision was to make the conflict much harder to manage or resolve. I chose to avoid the conflict with my friends' choices, by doing so, the conflict is not about decisions made, rather they are now about my loyatly to my friend. My devotion to my friend is now the conflict. This issue will take a very long time to manage. Trust is a big conflict and the hardest to resolve.

The moral of this story, is to be upfront and honest with others and especially the Family of Kin. We all deserve better, hiding your true feelings or avoiding an issue, well not come to a good conclusion. I have learned that my friends are the best in the world, and can deal with honesty and openness.